We dream of the perfect love story for ourselves. We often fly away to that place where we dream of a beautiful love story with our special someone. And when reality hits us, we think to ourselves that our love story won’t begin until we reach a certain stage of life. We couldn’t be more wrong.
This entry has been inspired by my mentors: pastor Dennis Sy and pastor LA Mumar and has been re-inspired by the book “When God Writes Your Love Story
To my future wife: I loved you before I met you
You may say I’m a dreamer
We start out as dreamers. As young men and women who seek out that perfect and passionate love story in our book called life. We love to read and re-read that chapter of story books, we love to watch love stories that make us feel, we love to listen to other people’s love lives and we often wonder what our own would be like.
A love story we can call our own
Everybody wants a love story that they can call their own. Everyone wants to share their lives with their special other. It is all built-in by God in our hearts and souls to desire to love and be loved. We are beings who seek love and who seek to give love. And at some point in our lives, we tend to jump-start our love story with the opposite sex without thinking of the cost or consequences. Can we handle it? Is it the right time? What does God say about it?
“Finish your outdoor work and get your fields ready; after that, build your house.” – Proverbs 24:27
God says that you have to be prepared before you build a home. Building a home requires counting the cost, preparing your fields and finishing your work. Often times we neglect work and we seek relationships even before we have prepared ourselves for building a home. We dive in to relationships when the Bible clearly indicates that you are not yet ready.
But this doesn’t mean that you have NO LOVE LIFE while you are yet preparing yourself. In fact, the very opposite is true. Your love life starts the moment you desire for one.
There is a love life before love life
You see, keeping yourself for the one whom God has kept and ordained for you is not a small thing. If you believe that God is keeping you for marriage then it most probably means that He has someone in store for you and that person is most probably alive and walking this planet as you are. Even if you have not met that person, it doesn’t mean you cannot love him/her now. In fact, you can love him/her by consecrating yourself and keeping yourself pure and set apart for that person – so that when the time comes and God puts you together, you can tell that person “I know I loved you before I met you. Because I’ve kept myself for you.”
And as a young man, hearing that for the first time from my mentors, I knew I wanted that. Don’t you?
I know for a fact that right now I’m loving my future wife because I’m keeping myself for her through the grace of God. So that when the time comes I know that I can claim her hand and tell her that I loved her even before I met her. I encourage you, young men and women to start loving your future spouse right now. In the same way that God loved us even yet while we were still unformed – He saw us and our unformed body and said “I am willing to die for you.”
It’s yours to give or keep
You are a treasure that you can give away or keep. Wouldn’t you want your future spouse to have that treasure in full? Whenever you enter a relationship and give yourself away, you are giving another person the keys to that treasure chest and that person will take anything he or she can get in order to fill his or her own chests with you and at the same time, you’re getting from that person’s treasure chest too!
In the end, your treasure chest will not be filled by your own treasure, but by treasures from your past relationships – treasures that will only hurt your future spouse because it is not his or hers completely.
I encourage you, young men and women, to make the decision to love your special someone now. It is a choice – it won’t happen just because.
I liked the article. Very much.
Just a point of question, marriage is not for everyone as the bible have said it. I wonder how you realize it's not for you though? XD
Thanks LimeOrange.
To be honest, you don't realize if it's for you or not. You have to pray about it. And then let God decide and wait on Him.
I still believe God intervenes. So I believe that if you really ask Him with all your heart – He will give it to you if it indeed it is aligned with His will for you. =)
And you get to know His will for us through the Bible.
oh I just love the article! its really inspiring.God moves when there seems to be no way and the least that we can do, is to be patient as we wait for that God-destined person..in the right time,right place,in all the right circumstances. :))
Very interesting article, Sean. I enjoyed reading. 🙂
Thanks Efren. Glad you enjoyed reading it as much as I enjoyed writing it.
Please do help me share. This article to your friends. =)
😀 nice. I love it!
Thanks Sekee. Praise God for the wisdom. I hope this changes your life =)
I am moved… 🙂
Thanks Edz.
That was my reaction when I first heard this. Hehe.
FULLY AWESOME!! :D:D:D:D
Sean! Grabeeeeee. 🙂
I've been hesitating to read this all day. I was scared, haha. But omg. I'm glad I decided to read it.
Praise God for this Sean. I was really encouraged.
Hey Christine!
Haha! You were scared? Howcome? By the way, what's your surname? I know so many Christines kasi eh
Praise God. I am so glad you are blessed and encouraged!
I like that. Nice hearing that from a guy too 🙂
Thanks Thess. Only by the grace of God am I able to write this. =) I've had my own set of mistakes in life that I utterly regret – but I've made a decision and that's what matters now.
Like the article so is it's title..
Thanks Johann =)
I like the song too. Haha!
favorite song of sixtensai
kidding aside, this article really made a difference… 🙂 the key here is to be patient, trust God and pray…:D
Thanks Drew. Yeah. It's hard to do but it's going to be worth the wait =)
c'mon!
Thanks bro! =)
this is great, sean! and i pray this article would be read by more youth and young adults and would greatly impact their lives. its great to know, too, that your mentors are Pastors Dennis and L.A.. you know, willajr and i now worship at Victory Fort for 4 yrs now. i’ve also volunteered to help Pastor L.A. in church-planting in makati. we do outreach every tuesday, 7pm at the makati sports club – dasmarinas room. if you have time, you could come over, and i would love to hear more of you and what you’re doing now. am sure Pastor L.A. would be so pleased to see you, too.. i am so blessed to read your articles, sean, your testimony about your great faith in Jesus. God bless and keep you. May you remain faithful unto Him until the end.. =)
Thank you tita Willa!
I am only but a man who wants to share more about God and His love to the world. Just doing my duty as a Christian. Thank you for your very kind words. Only by His grace am I able to write for Him. I would love to see you and pastor LA someday there in Makati. I will pray for the church being planted there. So excited for the souls you will be able to reach there!
I'm so glad that you were blessed to have read the entries here! Praise God for your desire for God! Thank you so much tita Willa! Hope to see you soon!
thank you, sean.. we truly need your prayers.. hope to see you soon.. =)
exactly just the right article i wanted to read…keep your faith burning!!!! it is good to have a christian view point in a relationship. thank you for the sharing:) I enjoy reading it…:)
Thanks Caroline. I'm glad you enjoyed this article and gained wisdom about relationships from it. Hope to get to know you more!
Hi, stumbled upon your blog from Topblogs. I have read When God Writes Your Love Story a long time ago. Thank you for reminding again of what its all about. I have long believed that God will fulfill our heart's desires, as long as it is good. If we desire marriage, God will prepare us and our future wife/husband for it. While ours and our future spouse's paths do not yet meet, let us work on being the best wife/husband that we can be.
Hey Osy!
It's such a great read isn't it? I'm so glad you're in the right track in picking out your books to guide you in your love story.
Yep I definitely agree and believe that we have to work on being the best we can be – first for God, next for other people 🙂
thanks for giving a refreshing view! you've definitely brought up my hopes. the fact that there's someone out there who thinks like me really makes me feel relieved.
Praise God 🙂
Thanks Amalia. It may be 'idealistic' but I believe being ideal is a standard that we all must reach for. Don't give those hopes up. Guard it with your relationship with God Amalia.
well, i guess now you know shoti why am still happily single 🙂
I knew even way before why 🙂 and that's a good thing
Hi, I encountered this article for the first time and I instantly love it! I think that you're really a great guy and your future wife will be one of the luckiest girl because you have something in you, your thoughts are inspiring and it gives me sense of contentment :). I hope that you would continue inspiring young people like me 🙂
This article runs contrary to your article “why you can’t tell me you fell in love and can’t control it”
Hello Andrew,
In what way are they contradicting? I cannot find any logical reason behind your argument.
While looking to your older posts, i found this article and i am blessed. I am also inspired by the book “when God writes you love story”. Since then, i decided to start loving him (the perfect man that God set for me), pray for him and enjoy the life while faithfully and patiently waiting for him until the God’s pefect time for us to meet. I also give this book as birthday present to my friends.
I pray na dumami pa ang mga Godly men, in heart and spirit, like you and all of your mentors.
Thanks Mheann,
Praise God for His wisdom and workings in our lives 🙂 I’m so glad that the book changed you in a positive light. May He bless you and the one whom He is preparing for you. May your love story glorify Him!
Thank you and God bless u more and more. 🙂
very inspiring! <3 🙂
Hey I just wanted to say that your website is truly a blessing. Keep up the Good work my brother. God Bless You.
Panalo!
Thank you so much. I posted quite a bit of this on my facebook page! There need to be more guys out there like you. It brings me hope when I read stories like this from guys about how they want to save themselves for their future wives. I encourage you to continue doing the work you are doing now. You are inspiring many people who need to her this. I am a missionary right now preaching the exact same thing. I’ll be praying for you during this year of service to Christ and His children. You will find that princess in your life :). Pray that I find my prince charming, too! God Bless!
Wow thanks for sharing it Kate 🙂 and only by God’s grace is this possible in my life. If not for Him, I never would have been able to save myself emotionally for my girl. May you find your prince charming someday Kate 🙂 God bless you.
I used to sing that song and thought before that the song is not about true love after all..Since I learned that love is more a decision and must not be based on feelings alone.
Your post give me a different perspective though, Indeed as early as I learned and decided to set apart myself for my future spouse I started loving her.
Awesome thought. God bless you more brother Sean
This is great… 🙂
I really enjoyed your article, Sean.
I was reading about Eric and Leslie’s love history… I found your page while I was searching Eric and Leslie’s photos.
I believe that in Christian’s life there is no coincidence. I see a message from God through your words.
Thank you 🙂
God bless you!
i love it
This article that you wrote sir.Sean, it’s very informative in a way that people would easily understand.
Thank you sir.Sean . To be honest, I really enjoy reading your articles.. I just recently discovered this blog of yours, you were a guest speaker on one of our management seminars, I graduated from Rizal Technological University. I was moved by what you said in that seminar, I remember sir Sean one of your topic is “How to be CEO at age 21.” I don’t if that’s correct but I’m sure it’s close to that. Well sir I just want to say that this is an awesome article. Can’t wait for new ones. Have a good day sir. God bless all of us.