I’m in that time of my life when there is a need to raise up leaders in the team. I’m finally finding out that it is not an easy task. In fact, it is quite difficult. It demands a lot from us. For this post, I will discuss the first crucial requirement that we have to give our up-coming leaders.
Note from the author: This entry was inspired by my Love who said he wanted to stretch my limits. I praise God for him each and every time I think of him, everyday. He inspires me.
Have you ever wondered why God created Adam before Eve? Let me speak first with the ladies. In some cases that we get to have men open our door, hear them say, “Ladies first” or “After you”… soon thereafter a smile marks our faces, and we’ll be happy to have met one of the few gentlemen left in the planet. But when our God created the universe, the human race, He first made Adam. As I pondered and talked with God, here are some of the reasons:
Men Are Designed To Lead.
Kindly note, designed, it’s not a matter of want. Guys, you’re made for leadership. God wanted you first to know the ins and outs, the structural framework and then you delegate. He knows that you hunger for the adventure, to seek the unknown for yourself and by yourself. And guess what, He specifically designed you to enjoy it.
Yes, two minds indeed are better than one. However, order first has to be established and our systematic God placed men in that authority. And as we all know, leadership comes with great responsibility.
Men Have Priorities.
If you will read in Genesis 1 verse 20-24, God created great creatures of the sea, every winged bird according to its kind, living creatures on the land, wild animals according to its kind and creatures that move along the ground. In v22, it writes God blessed them and said, “Be faithful and increase in number.” But again, for the human race, only a man was created.
In v26, God said, “Let us make man in our image in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”
From here, we can say that God created man first for Himself; to do His work and mission for Him. He ought to be fully developed, molded into His likeness in strength and in character. And then after this, God creates his Eve – or should I say, He lets Adam meet his Eve.
And so what are we ladies ought to do? You guessed it right! We are to wait. But not just that, we are to be developed as well. In Proverbs 31 verse 11, it writes, “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.” Statistics now says that for every man, there are 7 women! So we better make sure that we’re the better choice compared to the other 6, don’t you think?
There was an enormous task to be done. God had entrusted Adam with His creation. And He placed Eve alongside him to encourage, support and help him carry his tasks. God didn’t particularly specify that Eve should rule over the animals with Adam but He wanted her to be beside Adam. Some of you might think this to be unfair but basing it in Scripture, God placed Adam in-charge and so Eve’s focal was to be there for Adam… to serve him… to accompany him.
We are to trust our God and remember Him to be our Creator and Author of our love stories. He knows even the numbers of hair in our head. He knows the utmost desires of our hearts. Therefore, wouldn’t He know what is best for you? Definitely! But in our waiting, in Him alone, can we find the Perfect Gentleman.
‘You can’t hurry love.’
Men, Adam never asked God he needed a mate. He didn’t question his Master how come all the creatures he ruled over had a partner yet he didn’t. God just knows. In His wisdom, riches and grace, He provided him with his Eve out of his own ribs. And so men, I urge you to work and be developed for the advancement of His Kingdom. And women, wait patiently and expectantly for your Adam. Keep yourselves pure and be steadfast for your man.
Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you. –Matthew 6: 33.
Our bodies are opened up to desire sex as we reach the age of, more or less thirteen.This is because God designed us to manhood as we reached puberty. And as Christians in a world of rampant pornography and lust, suddenly we realize we need help.
This entry has been inspired by the book Every Young Man’s Battle by Fred Stoeker and Stephen Arterburn
These days young men and women are treated as kids
Even when our bodies are already ready for sex because we are designed to be sexual beings, you can always hear other people saying “you’re not ready to get married” or “enjoy your life first, you’re young” or “you still need to be financially stable”. Those people may be right in telling you that, but your body is certainly ready to have sex.
The word ‘teenager’ did not exist before the late 1940’s. Meaning before those times, when you reach the age of thirteen, you are considered a man.
What’s happening today is that we think of ourselves as kids with all our lives ahead of us. We think that we can enjoy and use up our time and life for our comfort and desires. If we viewed ourselves as men and women, who have responsibilities to carry, who have loads to bear, who have limited lives to live – then we would realize that we have to develop ourselves as leaders as soon as we can. We have to develop ourselves to face those responsibilities. We cannot procrastinate because our bodies will not procrastinate.
The heavy load of celibacy
The truth of the matter is, the Bible says that sexual immorality is wrong. I’ve written quite a number of entries about purity and lust. And when our bodies are opened to the world of puberty, we suddenly realize that the years we need to go through before we can settle down and marry is too darn long!
Then this ‘celibacy’ thing that God has called us to, seems impossible.
In fact, a lot of young men today think that abstaining from pornography and masturbation is impossible. They think that no one can do it – because they know that they can’t. And pornography is just a click away. It is so accessible.
Keeping away from sexual immorality and lust ain’t a walk in the park.
Instead of carrying the load of keeping focused and desiring to marry in the right age and time, we move our focus to career, business, materialistic pleasure, and so on and so forth. We think marrying and getting settled down is going to be in the way of our ‘enjoyment’ and materialistic pleasure.
We suddenly fear the responsibility in marriage. Because we think we’re still too young and everyone says that we are not yet ready.
We get sidetracked to desiring the pleasures of this world. And since we are sexual beings, we are always tempted to satisfy our sexual desires. The tendency is for us to just buy sex or get into flings and one nighters. It’s cheap, easy and no strings attached.
And we’re young. What could possibly go wrong?
Age does not separate the consequences
All our sexual decisions today will impact the rest of our lives. The choices you make as a teen will always carry over. The right decisions you make when you’re twenty will impact your decisions when you’re forty. Likewise the wrong choices you make today will impact the choices you make in the future.
Everything that you’re sowing in your life now, you will soon reap. It might not be immediate, but it is surely coming your way sooner or later.
Playing life without concern for your own maturity through choice of responsibility will utterly delay your manhood. It is procrastination of your call as a leader. A procrastination of your call as a man.
Growing older will not free you from sexual impurity. Don’t think that your choice of drowning yourself into sin and lust and sexual immorality now won’t matter because you’re young. Age will not save you. Marriage will not save you. You have to make a choice.
You have to tell yourself “This is it. This is as far as I go. I will go no further. I will stop from sinning and commit myself to following God in the aspect of sexual purity.” Otherwise, you’re going down a slippery slope. And it will get harder and harder to pin your flag down and stop.
Take the baton and run!
We have to realize that we are called to leadership and maturity in an early age. This life is meant to glorify God and nothing else. We have to see ourselves as how God sees us. We have to push ourselves as how God expects of us. Take the baton and run – run hard. Carry the load. Always remember that through this race, God is with you. You just have to decide to finally push yourself into taking that first step.