This is not to say that a lot of people don’t want to get married. However in our day and age, there is an ongoing trend of delaying tying the knot and saying “I do“. It’s as if it’s a bad thing to declare your life-long love to the person you want to spend it with.
Webmaster’s Note: This is my first entry here coming from my honeymoon break. I’ve learned and realized some things that I wish to impart to you.
1) It’s not as Bad as you Think
In fact, it’s not bad at all!
There’s a promise attached to it in the Bible which says: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.” – Proverbs 18:22
Know what that means? That means that when you get married, the Lord’s favor is on you.
I know that weddings are daunting and our society is pushed to think that weddings have to be grand and awesome. While it’s a once-in-a-lifetime event, it doesn’t have to be a reason for bankruptcy or debt.
When I was set to get married, Apple and I shopped around for wedding suppliers. We were actually thrilled because of the thought of marriage but we were also nervous because of all the costs it entails. When I calculated all the expenses we needed to meet, it was a price that I had no way to pay off.
Still, we stepped out in faith that God’s favor will be on us. We continued to set meetings, sign contracts, and make everything possible for our wedding day to happen.
Little by little, God showed His faithfulness to us. We got more contracts signed in my SEO business. We got help from our parents. We got encouragement from friends. Things just kept coming.
My wedding day was every bit as beautiful I imagined it to be. It didn’t seem possible at first. But God pushed through for us.
2) Legitimize the Urge
Let’s face it: We are all tempted. Especially as a dating couple.
There will always be a time when you are left alone together especially in our day and age – and you’re free to do anything you want without accountability during that moment.
The more you delay getting married, the more this will happen. And the more chances of you falling into sin.
I know. I’ve been there.
When you step up and decide to finally get married, you legitimize sex and all that comes with it – and you enjoy it in the boundaries that is glorifying to the Lord.
3) True Love Commits
You can promise her the sun, the moon, the stars, or five straight hours of shopping spree, but you will never be able to really tell the world how much you love her until you get on your knees and ask her that life-binding question: “Will you marry me?”
If you love your girl, you will marry her.
I can’t express how frustrated I feel when I hear couples spend years and years together and yet have decided against marriage “For the time being”.
Sometimes it’s both couples who decide to delay marriage, sometimes it’s just one of them.
Either way, it’s a sad thing to see a prolonged relationship that is not wholly committed through marriage.
I’ve been taught before that 2 years is the best threshold to get to know each other – and then decide if marriage will be the next step or not.
I think the 3 years I’ve had getting to know Apple is actually a little longer than it should’ve gone. Thank God we’ve finally decided to step up and get married on our 2nd year.
4) The Generation Gap
There used to be a time when children can communicate and relate well with their parents. That grew to be less and less true – even to today.
Technology has created a growing number of children who are detached and disrespectful of their parents because they seem to know more due to the advances in technological know-how.
It’s quite obvious that if you decide to marry later, there are more chances of you having a bigger gap with your children once they reach their teen years because of the difference in technology during their time, the difference in age, difference in trends, and so on and so forth.
This is a real situation. Believe me if you decide to marry late and have children even later, you will have to deal with this.
5) Sex is AWESOME!
You know I think the best commandment God ever gave was: “As for you, be fruitful and increase in number; multiply on the earth and increase upon it.” – Genesis 9:7
Adam must’ve been thrilled beyond words.
The world today is struggling to have legitimate sex because it is put in the pedestal of marriage – which entails money, commitment, time, planning, in-laws, etc.
Ever wonder why God made it such a hassle to get married today?
I think one of the reasons is so that you’ll never forget what you went through in order to have such an awesome, legitimate sex life.
Our world is peppered with pornography, lewdness, green jokes, sexual terminologies, and a watered-down guilt on illegitimate sexual acts and thoughts.
This has made us desire marriage less and less and less.
Why trade-off a life-long commitment and tons of responsibilities for legitimate sex when you can get illegitimate sex for free?
A friend of mine who is not a Christian once told me: “There is nothing better than having meaningful sex with someone you really love.”
And the most meaningful sex you can ever have is found in the bounds of marriage.