“When you’re 15, somebody tells you they love you, you’re gonna believe them.” This is how Taylor Swift put it in her own words. It’s so easy to get into a relationship today. People want to fall in love – to give love and to be loved. Because there is something to give and it feels great to receive. All the while, we leave 3 very important aspects of getting into a relationship unchecked.
Jump-start my Heart
Lots and lots of relationships today start out quick. And usually they are plagued with impatience, lack of purpose and misguided emotions. As long as you find him handsome, he finds you pretty, and you say you love each other – that’s enough reason to get together. The world and society today definitely advocates these kinds of relationships.
Most young relationships are formed with impatience. People are anxious to be in a relationship for various reasons. You might feel left out, or you’re getting older, or no one better might come along, etc… It’s not wrong to desire to be in a relationship – but what is your motive? Is it the confidence that you’re ready for marriage and that God has brought someone godly into your life for you? Is it because you want what’s best for that person in terms of God’s Word and you can give it?
A lot of relationships today start without any clear purpose and vision. People date ‘just because’. People fall in love ‘just because’. People tell me they’ve found the one and they’re together ‘just because’. ‘Just because’ doesn’t cut it. You have to have a clear vision and purpose for your relationship. A relationship SHOULD start with only one goal in mind: Marriage. If you have another goal aside from that, I urge you to be patient and develop yourself until you’re ready to take on that goal.
Emotions anchored in Wisdom
Almost all relationships today are fueled by misguided emotions. We do things because it FEELS good. We say things because it FEELS good. We think things about each other because it FEELS good. Emotions don’t last. The moment those feelings go flying away, where then is your commitment? Where then will the relationship be?
Don’t let your emotions dictate your relationship. Emotions ebb to and fro.
“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” – Jeremiah 17:9
Don’t let your relationship be led by a deceitful heart. Make sure that your relationship is guided with wisdom.
Wisdom and Foolishness
We really can’t say that if you’re not wise, you’re a fool and vice-versa. But if you are not pursuing wisdom, you are not growing in maturity as a person. In a relationship, maturity and wisdom come hand in hand – and they are intricately vital. Wisdom can, first and foremost, be found in God’s Word. Make God’s Word your anchor and root – to grow a strong and flourishing relationship that will declare His Glory.
Be wise – for God, for yourself, and for the person you’re going to marry someday.