We often worry about someone – most probably the people we love and who are dear to us. It’s quite a common thing to get worried when you’re not with that person or when you’ve no idea where that someone is, what that someone is doing, etc. Does worrying about that particular someone mean that you care?
This is the fifth entry on my series about Worry.
My previous entries:
This entry has been strongly inspired by Harold J. Sala’s book: “Making Your Emotions Work for You”
Yes, things can go wrong
I’m sure at some point in your life, you’ve experienced worrying about a person, right? It’s not an unusual thing to do to think about what’ might happen to that certain someone when you’re not around. Things can go awry – as ‘Murphy’s law’ endorses it. And there are times that we find ourselves thinking about all the bad things that can go wrong for the person we care about.
So does it mean that when you’re worried about a person, you care for him/her? Hmmm…
There are just some things that you cannot control. And we as human beings, certainly don’t like to be controlled, do we? When you keep on worrying about that person, he/she will just feel that you’re trying to control the situation he/she is in (or is going to be in) and so you’re meddling with his/her life. And oftentimes, it would seem to them that we’re trying to control them. It’s not going to build a healthy relationship.
It spells out one thing for them: “I don’t trust you”
Yup. When we worry about the people we care for, we make them feel that we don’t trust them because we try our best to control their every move. But in reality, it’s not about that.
In reality, worrying about another person spells out: “I don’t trust God”
Because, as my previous entry has already explained, God has claimed control of everything. He has ordained all our days, has ordained all things that has happened, that are happening and that will happen here on Earth.
Worrying about someone doesn’t mean you care. It just means that you don’t trust God enough to just take comfort in His protection and plans. You might not know it, but God loves that other person much more than you do.